Hello. My name is Jennifer and I have been Facebook free for almost two full months (since January 17th) and, though I would very much like to say I don’t miss it, I must admit that I do. Miss it. Often. Frequently. (“’Orphan’ as in a person with no parents or ‘often’ frequently?” Bonus points anyone?)
I miss so very many people! I miss being able to keep in touch with family out of state. I miss being able to use more than 140 characters. I miss the enjoyment it brought me, seeing other peoples’ pictures, sharing in their joys, their sorrows. Cheering people on, or up.
I don’t miss the politics, the nastiness, the speed at which rumors spread (so & so is dead! Oh, my gosh!) only to find out through the smallest amount of sleuthing that said rumor is a hoax. I don’t miss people “friending” me who I don't know from Adam. I don’t miss all the inappropriate things, comments, pictures, and hey-look-at-me-selfies. I don’t miss people (for whatever reason: religion, personal beliefs, sexual orientation, skin color) being persecuted or verbally bashed or simply hated. What have we become?
I want to feel like I still have friends, even if I don’t see them every day. Because I’m interested in what interests them. What makes them happy.
This whole giving up Facebook thing is much harder than I thought it would be.
Sometimes – for extended stretches – I don’t think about it at all. So I ask myself, often and frequently, “Would I go back?” It’s not like a drug addiction, right? Or an alcohol addiction. Those unfortunate addictions are not even in the same ballpark…are they? It’s not like giving up cigarettes, either. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Still want one almost every day.
So, would I go back? Maybe. Someday. If “they” banned politics and mean people and selfishness and toxicity and narcissism and inequality and hate. Those are the reasons I left.
And yeah, like I said, I miss parts of it. I miss those I love, or like an awful lot, or even am vaguely interested in. But I don’t miss the rest. Come see me on Twitter, OK? It’s not my drug of choice, but it’s a non-narcotic form of Social Media that I can handle. Mostly. (Twitter: @jshell73 #offonatangent)