Monday, June 15, 2009

June 15, 1989

It's been 20 years to the day since I lost my beloved mother.  She was a beautiful woman, inside and out and she fought SO hard to stay with her family.  Everyone who knew her loved her dearly; they couldn't help themselves, her sweet personality was infectious.  At her funeral, there were people standing in the aisles, and outside looking in the windows, of the little church on Flagg Road in West Hartford, CT.  The small church couldn't hold all the people who showed up to pay their respects to the beautiful woman who had finally lost her years-long fight with cancer.  Wife, Mother, Sister, Friend...
Mom, it's been 20 years and I still miss you and think about you every single day.  I wish you could be here to know your grand children, to know your son-in-law, to experience all the wonderful things your family has managed to accomplish.  We are a strong bunch, and that is mostly due to your example.  You may have been small in stature, but you were huge in personality, love, respect and kindness.
I miss you.  I love you.


Anonymous said...

I think about Mary so often; we planned to retire together - with or without husbands. We wanted someplace warm. Mary loved South Carolina and Folly Beach. I preferred Isle of Palms - (on this, Mary won!!)
Mary was 13 when I first met her, and watched her grow into a wonderful woman.
One of my last visits, Mary and I talked about life after death. We both expressed our hopes and our doubts; so Mary said that if there is a hereafter, she would come back as a deer so I would know.
Well 19 1/2 years passed with nary a clue - until February. I was getting packages out of my car when I felt something touch my back. I turned around and screamed!! It was a small deer. It wasn't until later that I thought "OmiGod!! that was Mary!!"

Kendra Zvonik said...

This really touched my heart. I can feel your pain and I am so sorry for your loss. Even though it was a long time ago, it still tugs at your heart and although it is sad, it is also a testament to how deeply and honestly you loved your mother. That is a beautiful thing and fills me with joy.
Thanks for sharing this with me Jennifer.

Rosanna and Jeff said...

20 years. It's strange to have a memory that seems like yesterday, yet is still hard to remember any details. Mom would be proud Jen, you're one talented chica.

yourlonglostsister said...

You never know what people are thinking about or feeling when you see them. I didn't realize tonight when I saw you what a significant day it was in your life. I'm glad you shared this with us and I want to say thank you to you for being such a great friend. Your mother must have done something right along the way.... :)

Love ya!

Anonymous said...

It's really hard to think about her without feeling very, very sad. You know that she and I were not always on the best of terms but, I really did love her very much.

We had loads of fun together when I was young. I remember her going off to college and getting her first real job.

I gave her a free car wash (handmade) certificate one time for her birthday.

She used to get exsaperated with me at times because I would get into such dark moods and ruin holidays etc.

I was a pain in the butt. (as all little brothers are!)

Picture nbr two: She was in junior high school there. 9th grade I think.

She WAS beautiful. She always heard that she looked like Natalie Wood. Personally, I think she was better looking than that.

Cheers, Your Mom's little brother